1-Not Giving the Children Enough Quality Time
No doubt parents love their children very much and want to provide them all facilities but they usually make a great number of mistakes and these mistakes of parents cannot be ignored because these begin to appear from the personality of children. Mostly the parents make a common mistake of not giving enough time and undivided attention to their children. To provide the facilities to children is not enough, they need the attention and time from their parents.
2-Setting the Unreasonable Goals
Another common mistake that almost all our parents make is the "Setting the Unreasonable Goals". Parents should not consider their children a supernatural creature, they should try to understand them and their abilities. So, Parents should set goals before their children which are attainable for their children, if parents try to set expectations about children on the basis of the abilities of their children, this will be beneficial not only for the children but also for the parents.
3-Not Making Clear the Consequences For Breaking the Rules
Mostly parents are observed that they do not care about the creating punishments for breaking the rules, and they really make a great mistake. If you want to force their children to follow certain rules, that you have made for the betterment of your child, then you should make clear the consequences in advance for breaking the rules. When these rules are broken, you should enforce all the consequences that you have set before.
4-Pointing Out Only the Negative
It is true that all parents want to see their children perfect and expect good grades, good behavior, and a complete goodness. That's why mostly the parents adopt the method of pointing out only the negative points of their children in order to make them perfect. This concept is totally wrong because this may increase the negativity of the children, if you want to see the goodness from your children then you should appreciate them.
5-The Responsibility of Educating the Children Leaving up to Someone Else
It is also observed that most modern parents want to get rid of the crucial responsibility of educating their children. The father expects from the mother that she should educate their child and in some cases both the parents remain busy with their jobs, leaving up the responsibilities of educating the children to teachers or someone else. But I think it is the totally wrong concept because no one can educate them as sincerely as you can.
6-Comparing Your Child With Other Children
Another most obvious and common mistake parents make with their teens and that is "Comparing Your Child With Other Children". Parents are habitual of judging other parents and kids, the reason behind it is that they want to see their child perfect and best of others, that's why they begin to highlight only the negative points of their children by describing the positive points of other children, this thing affects children badly.
7-Not Being Good Role Models
Children have a remarkable ability to copy others, they copy what they see, so parents should be very careful about their children in this respect. They should be good role models for their children because the parents are first personalities to whom a child begin to copy, that's why we can see the impact of good and bad behaviors of the parents on their children, it is compulsory for parents to demonstrate their behavior what they want their children to develop.
8-Concentrating Just on the Good Grades Without Worrying About the Other Problems
It is observed that mostly the parents are interested only in the studies and all the matters related to studies of their children. If the parents have enough smart children who do really very well in their school and have the ability to maintain their good grades, then parents show their complete satisfaction for their children and ignore all other activities of their children such as using drugs, sleeping late and many other misbehavior.
9-Making All Decisions Yourself For Them
Usually, all the parents make this mistake, not only a mistake but it is a blunder. Although, we know that you want only the betterment of your child, you want to do, to get only best for your child but this habit of making all the decisions yourself for your child affects adversely your child. It is your duty to create a good decisive power in your child and let him take simple decision for himself such as picking out an outfit, from his childhood.
10-Treating Your child Like the Center of the Universe
To have a great love, and to be passionate about you child is quite a natural thing. No one can give your child too much love like you, but even in this matter, you should be a little bit careful for the goodness of your child. Mostly the parents strive for a kid-centered home by fulfilling all their wishes, it seems as if they are worshiping their kids instead of loving them. It is totally wrong because this kid-centered atmosphere promotes selfishness in children instead of selflessness.
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